Parental status and respect
والدين كا مقام ومرتبه ابن جوزي
والدين كا مقام ومرتبه ابن جوزي Allah Ta’ala has created man as the best and best creature in the universe. Parents are actually the source of human beings in the world, our existence is due to parents, that’s why Allah Almighty ordered good behavior towards parents and advised them to pay for their rights. The feeling of love is natural. Parents are the greatest blessing in the world for children, the more respect and respect the parents have, the more the children will be happy has gone.
It is said by Allah Ta’ala.
وَ قَضٰی رَبُّکَ اَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوۡۤا اِلَّاۤ اِیَّاہُ وَ بِالۡوَالِدَیۡنِ اِحۡسَانًا ؕ اِمَّا یَبۡلُغَنَّ عِنۡدَکَ الۡکِبَرَ اَحَدُہُمَاۤ اَوۡ کِلٰہُمَا فَلَا تَقُلۡ لَّہُمَاۤ اُفٍّ وَّ لَا تَنۡہَرۡہُمَا وَ قُلۡ لَّہُمَا قَوۡلًا کَرِیۡمًا ﴿۲۳
And your Lord has clearly commanded that you should not worship anyone except Him and be kind to your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your presence, do not say a word in front of them, nor scold them, but talk to them politely and respectfully.
(Bani Israel: 23)
In the above-mentioned verse, where Allah Ta’ala commanded His worship, He also said that treat your parents well and not even talk to them. On whose heads are the shadow of parents and happy are the children who treat their parents well and respect them in all circumstances.
Allah Almighty says.
وَ اعۡبُدُوا اللّٰہَ وَ لَا تُشۡرِکُوۡا بِہٖ شَیۡئًا وَّ بِالۡوَالِدَیۡنِ اِحۡسَانًا وَّ بِذِی الۡقُرۡبٰی وَ الۡیَتٰمٰی وَ الۡمَسٰکِیۡنِ وَ الۡجَارِ ذِی الۡقُرۡبٰی وَ الۡجَارِ الۡجُنُبِ وَ الصَّاحِبِ بِالۡجَنۡۢبِ وَ ابۡنِ السَّبِیۡلِ ۙ وَ مَا مَلَکَتۡ اَیۡمَانُکُمۡ ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰہَ لَا یُحِبُّ مَنۡ کَانَ مُخۡتَالًا فَخُوۡرَا ﴿ۙ۳۶
And worship Allah, and do not associate anyone with Him, and treat parents well, and relatives, orphans, poor people, near neighbors, and distant neighbors, (29) sitting (or standing) together. (Behave well) with the dead person (30) and with the wayfarer and also with your slaves and servants. Verily, Allah does not like a braggart.
Allah says further.
یَسۡئَلُوۡنَکَ مَا ذَا یُنۡفِقُوۡنَ ۬ ؕ قُلۡ مَاۤ اَنۡفَقۡتُمۡ مِّنۡ خَیۡرٍ فَلِلۡوَالِدَیۡنِ وَ الۡاَقۡرَبِیۡنَ وَ الۡیَتٰمٰی وَ الۡمَسٰکِیۡنِ وَ ابۡنِالسَّبِیۡلِ ؕ وَ مَا تَفۡعَلُوۡا مِنۡ خَیۡرٍ فَاِنَّ اللّٰہَ بِہٖ عَلِیۡمٌ ﴿۲۱۵﴾
People ask you what they should spend (for the pleasure of Allah)? You should say that whatever wealth you spend should be for parents, close relatives, orphans, poor people and travelers. And whatever good deed you do, Allah is fully aware of it.
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) has also ordered us to treat our parents well. People asked, “Why not, O Messenger of Allah ﷺ?” He said, “Neither associate with Allah nor disobey parents.”
Uddin’s position is that of a caretaker in the house. If the children act seriously and thoughtfully, then it is clear that after Allah and His Messenger, if there is any entity worthy of obedience in the true sense, it is the parents.
Obedience and obedience to parents is also part of worship. But if the parents give an order that is against the Shariat, then obeying them is not obligatory, but obeying the Shariat is necessary.
Allah Ta’ala says (translation) “And they both (parents) put pressure on you to share with Me that which you do not know, so do not listen to them, yes, in this world, do well with them.” Basar Karna” The position and position of parents is so important that after monotheism and worship, obedience and service to parents were declared necessary because while the real cause of human existence is Allah, the apparent cause is parents. From this, it is known that the greatest sin after shirk is disobedience to parents, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said that committing shirk with Allah and disobeying parents is a great sin.
Disobedience to parents, expressions of displeasure, and scolding are also prohibited and gentle conversation with politeness is ordered.
Allah Ta’ala says (translation) “And do not rebuke your parents and treat them gently.” Also, Allah Ta’ala commands us to pray for our parents throughout life. So he said (translation) And say: O my Lord, have mercy on my parents, the way they trained me in my childhood.
(Bani Israel: 25)
Hazrat Abdullah bin Masoud (ra) says that I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) which deed is more beloved to Allah. Hazrat Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) says: I said, “After that, which action is most pleasing to Allah?” So he said: Obedience to parents.
Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA) says that a person came to the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and said, “I want to pledge allegiance to him for emigration and Jihad with the hope of reward from Allah Ta’ala.” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: Are any of your parents alive? So this person said: Both are life. The Prophet ﷺ asked this person: Are you really seeking a great reward from Allah? He said yes. So he said: Go to your parents and serve them.
A person came to the service of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and inquired who is the most deserving of my good behavior.
He said: Your mother. This person asked then who? He said: Your mother. He asked then who? He said: Your mother. He asked then who? He said: Your father.
The Messenger of Allah, peace, and blessings be upon him, said: Father is the best of the gates of Paradise. Therefore, you have the option either (by disobeying him and showing your heart) to destroy this door or (by obeying him and keeping him satisfied) to protect this door.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Whoever wants his life to be extended and his sustenance to be increased, he should treat his parents well and be kind to his relatives.”
(Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal)
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Let that person be humiliated and humiliated.” O Messenger of Allah! Who is humiliated? The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “He who finds one or both of his parents in old age will not enter Paradise (through their service).
Hazrat Abu Aseed Al-Saadi (RA) narrates that we were present in the service of the Prophet (PBUH) when a person from Bani Salama came and asked: O Messenger of Allah (PBUH)! Is there any good that I can do for my parents after their death? You ﷺ said. Yes, why not. You pray for them, seek forgiveness for them, and fulfill the promises they made to someone. Be kind to their loved ones and relatives as they used to do to them in their lifetime and treat their friends with dignity and respect.
(Abu Dawud Kitab al-Adab Chapter Fi Baraluddin)
Hazrat Anas bin Malik narrates that the Prophet ﷺ said. A person who wishes to have a long life and plenty of sustenance, should treat his parents well (and keep it with his relatives) and make a habit of kindness.
(Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal)
The purpose of human birth is to please Allah, and the easiest way to achieve it, the Holy Prophet (PBUH) stated that Allah’s being pleased with a servant, Allah’s displeasure with a servant, is associated with the approval and displeasure of parents.
In another hadith, he said: God’s pleasure is in the father’s pleasure, God’s displeasure is in the father’s displeasure.
Hazrat Abu Tufail (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that I saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in Maqam Jaarana. You were distributing meat. Meanwhile, a woman came and the Holy Prophet spread his cloak for her and she sat on it. I asked the people who is this woman whom the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is honoring so much? People said that this is the foster mother of Prophet ﷺ.
In the light of the Quran and Hadith, it becomes very clear that disobedience to parents is a great sin. The displeasure of parents causes the displeasure of Allah. Therefore, we should not neglect to obey and obey our parents. Especially when one or both of the parents reach old age, they should not be scolded or even told. They should be served with respect, love, and sincerity. They should be respected. They should be loved. They should be obeyed. Serving them, comforting them as much as possible, and fulfilling their needs, all these are our responsibilities.
Every year on June 1st, International Parents’ Day is celebrated all over the world. Its purpose is to pay tribute to the parents. Undoubtedly, mothers and fathers are the greatest blessings of nature. They play an important role in the child from birth to his education and training and enable him to survive in society, guiding him at every step, protecting him from every cold and heat of the time, as if for him his own. They dedicate their lives, but sadly, when the same children grow up, they leave their parents alone. Although at that time they need him more.
How many such examples are filled in our society that in their old age, the children threw their parents out of their homes, left them destitute, mistreated them, and admitted them to old houses. Isn’t it true that when children grow up, they talk very rudely to their parents, disobey them and make it a habit, children don’t have time for their parents? They are so busy with worldly pursuits that it becomes difficult for them to stay with their parents.
Parents become burdened. It is a pity that the stories of disobedient children are commonplace. Sheikh Dr. Ali Al Huzaifi, the imam and preacher of Masjid Nabawi Sharif in Madinah Munawarah, gave Friday’s sermon on the topic of parents’ rights. He said that all the servants of God are obliged to pay for the rights of others. Allah’s right comes first. It is necessary for every person to pay the rights of Allah without any reduction. Those who fail to pay their dues deserve to be punished.
The imam of Masjid Nabawi said that it is the right of Allah to perform the five prayers in the congregation on time. After the rights of Allah and Rasool, the rights of parents come first. Allah Ta’ala has mentioned the rights of parents while mentioning his right in the Holy Qur’an. Allah Almighty has emphasized the rights of parents because Allah Almighty gives birth to human beings through parents. The mother goes through extraordinary labor and pains in giving birth to the child.
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has given extraordinary emphasis to all Muslims to serve their parents. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has warned that a person who is lucky to have old parents or one of them in his life and then does not arrange to enter Paradise, then he is unlucky. Islam has also defined the scope of obedience to parents.
If they do not command any sin, their obedience is obligatory. Children have been exempted from their submission to sin. Sending parents to an old home or reducing their care is cruel to them and a great sin. This is un-Islamic behavior.
Literature and morals are the basic status of society, which play a very important role in uplifting society. A person without literature cannot make his position. There is a saying that “polite people are lucky and unpolite people are lucky” meaning literature is a genre that makes a person distinguished. Literature, manners, and morals are the hallmark of any nation. Islam has also emphasized good manners and manners.
The religion of Islam has clearly defined the rights of every relationship. Literacy and manners are also taught, with parents’ rights and their literature at the fore. Apart from this, respect for teachers, the rights of neighbors, and oppressed people of the society are also included. All these people deserve full attention and respect.
Service is the only act that shows the greatness of a person. Allah Ta’ala has imposed two duties on man, one is to obey the Lord and the other is to love his servants. That is, one is the rights of Allah and the other is the rights of the servants. Our youth are an important part of society and their moral responsibilities are directly related to the elders, parents, and teachers of society, but it is sad to say that the negative attitude of the youth toward literature is quite painful.
What young people do with their elderly parents today is not a secret. It is often seen and read in the media that elderly parents are killed for the sake of a few rupees or property. Today’s children and teenagers do not feel any shame in scolding, reprimanding, and talking loudly to their parents. When the parents ask about something, the eyebrows go up, but when these young people asked their parents in their childhood, the parents happily told them.
It is not everything to put bread twice a day in front of parents, but obeying parents, obedience, politeness and manners make a polite and successful person. Parents’ prayers are the ladder of success, thanks to which you become a successful person. The name of the country and nation can be enlightened.
Your patience and patience in the face of parental anger is an admirable example of politeness and manners. The displeasure of the parents is temporary and this practical demonstration of yours will make you a place in the heart of the parents and will further improve their compassion and love. In your imitation, younger siblings and other family members will also follow your footsteps.
Readers! Today, make a promise to your Lord as a witness that you ask forgiveness for the disrespectful behavior you have done to your parents in the past and ask for permission to respect them in the future.